“I want you to see only me.”

I think a lot of women feel this way!!!

When it comes to the person we love, we want them to see only us, love only us, and protect only us.

I’m sure many women carry these feelings in their hearts.

But when you’re in a relationship, a man’s words and actions can sometimes feel incredibly painful to a woman.

“I’m busy with work.”

“I don’t have time right now.”

That’s what we’re told.

Even just five minutes would be enough.

You want to hear his voice for a little while.

You want to talk, even briefly.

But when he explains why even that isn’t possible, you may start wondering:

“Then does he really have feelings for me?”

But maybe this isn’t simply a matter of whether he loves you or not.

Men and women can have very different ways of thinking about relationships and expressing love.

Of course, this doesn’t apply to every man or every woman.

Still, I feel that there can be differences between men and women in this area.

And there’s one more thing.

We often hear people ask, “Can men and women really be just friends?”

I think this is a very complicated question.

If one person has romantic feelings for the other, they may be able to hide those feelings and continue the relationship as “friends.”

But can it truly be considered a completely platonic friendship?

I think everyone has a different opinion on that.

And perhaps that’s why, when a friendship develops into a romantic relationship, misunderstandings can arise, leaving one person thinking:

“This isn’t how it was supposed to be.”

When women start thinking about someone they love, they may find themselves thinking about everything—the person’s words, their actions, and even their future.

“What does he really think of me?”

“Where is this relationship going?”

“What kind of future would I have if I stayed with him?”

In this way, many women think not only about the relationship itself, but also about the life that may come after it.

Men, on the other hand, may still focus on their work, goals, future, and the things they want to accomplish—even when they are deeply in love.

That doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t love the person who matters to them.

They may simply believe:

“What I’m working hard on right now will lead to our future.”

Of course, women can feel this way too.

And there are also men who make love their top priority.

That’s why we can’t explain everything by putting men and women into two simple categories.

Still, there can be a difference between a woman’s feeling of:

“If he loves me, I want him to think about me all the time.”

and a man’s feeling of:

“Because I love her, I want to focus on what I need to do right now.”

Could this difference be what creates major misunderstandings in relationships?

I also feel that many women are sensitive to changes in their family, children, and the people around them.

They may find themselves thinking:

“Is everything okay?”

“Are they hurting?”

“I hope they feel better.”

This may be more than simple kindness.

Perhaps it’s the ability to sense what someone else is going through and genuinely care about their emotional state.

Of course, this also varies from person to person.

But maybe these differences affect not only romantic relationships, but also our views on marriage, family, and the choices we make in life.

So when you find yourself wondering:

“Does he not love me?”

Maybe it’s not that he doesn’t have feelings for you.

Maybe he simply expresses love differently or has a different way of thinking about relationships.

Love isn’t only about having feelings for someone.

It’s also about understanding how the other person loves.

And understanding how you want to be loved.

I believe both are incredibly important.

I hope that something I shared today can help someone, even just a little, with their relationship.

See you next time. ♡

心晴れるまで

土屋梨沙

原画梨沙　　AIサポートオリジナル梨沙にゃん