Psychology and modern relationships continue to evolve.

For a long time, I have had one question about the psychological emphasis on proximity and frequency of contact.

Of course, I understand the reasoning behind it.

When physical distance increases, people naturally have fewer opportunities to see each other.
When communication becomes less frequent, people tend to spend less time thinking about one another.
As a result, relationships may become weaker over time.

In many ways, this is a natural phenomenon.

Particularly in societies with vast geographic distances, this perspective has a certain degree of logic and practicality.

Today, however, we live in a world of social media and instant messaging, where reaching out to someone is easier than ever.

Because of that, I understand why some people view the presence or absence of communication as an important indicator of a relationship.

What I question, however, is the tendency to treat this idea as if it were a universal law.

The reason is simple:

People may live within the same flow of time, but they do not experience time in the same way.

Some people become anxious after only a week without contact.

Others are perfectly comfortable going a month without hearing from someone.

And there are those who can reconnect after six months and continue the relationship as though they had spoken only yesterday.

This cannot be explained by personality alone.

Our upbringing, attachment styles, values, life experiences, and individual perceptions of time all play a role.

That is why I believe that relationships are not defined solely by how often people communicate.

What matters just as much is the time frame through which each person experiences and understands the relationship itself.

There are people who communicate every day and yet feel emotionally distant from one another.

There are also people who go months without speaking and still maintain a deep sense of trust.

If that is true, then perhaps the idea that “less contact leads to weaker relationships” should be understood as one model for explaining human connection rather than a universal principle that explains every relationship.

Human emotions and relationships are far too complex to be explained solely by distance or frequency of communication.

There are aspects of human connection that cannot be fully measured by theories or data.

Unspoken feelings.

Invisible bonds.

Trust that endures beyond the passage of time.

I believe these dimensions of human relationships are real.

There are mysteries in this world that exist beyond what we can easily see.

Perhaps many people simply have not learned to recognize them yet.

心晴れるまで

土屋梨沙