Experience and knowledge.

I still believe that, when it comes to certain things in life, experience often matters more.

No matter how much you study or how much knowledge you gain, there are some things you simply cannot understand until you’ve actually experienced them.

Of course, knowledge is important.

But when you’re actually standing in that moment, how you act and how you make your decisions can make all the difference.

When it comes to love, real-life experience is everything.

Bringing war into a conversation about love might sound like an extreme comparison.

But in the end, I think love is something you have to face in the real world.

There are things you simply cannot know until you actually face another person.

How do you respond to their words?
How much can you truly take in and accept?
Instead of simply arguing your own point, can you understand what the other person is feeling and where they’re coming from?

I think that’s what really matters.

Of course, you still need boundaries.
You need to respect the people around you and maintain a sense of order.

But within all of that, you have to decide for yourself:

What should I do?
How should I respond?
How should I make my decision?

I believe that’s one of the most important parts.

I’ve learned this lesson myself.

There have been times when I put my friends’ opinions above my own judgment, and I ended up making mistakes.

Through my work as a fortune teller, I’ve seen countless relationships.
I’ve listened to countless stories about love, and I’ve spent years facing the different paths people’s futures can take.

And even after all of that, I still believe this:

Love is something you have to experience firsthand.

You can know everything there is to know about relationships, but when you’re actually standing face-to-face with someone, you don’t truly know how you’ll respond until you’re there.

Lately, especially among younger people, I hear things like:

“I just can’t seem to meet anyone I’m really interested in.”
“I can’t seem to fall for anyone.”

Of course, everyone has their own reasons.

But sometimes, I wonder if part of the problem is simply that they haven’t had enough real experience connecting with other people.

That doesn’t mean you should stop protecting yourself.

Protect yourself while watching how the other person chooses to respond.

Take your time.
Pay attention.
Learn who they really are.

It’s not easy, but maybe this is one of the closest things to a “winning strategy” in love.

And I think this applies to everyone, regardless of gender.

In the end, relationships begin with conversation.

There is communication.
You discover the things you have in common.

Then you gradually learn about each other’s upbringing, the environments you grew up in, the experiences that shaped you, and the lives you’ve lived.

I believe that’s how two people gradually become connected.

Of course, coming from different backgrounds doesn’t mean a relationship can’t work.

There are many international couples who have built beautiful relationships precisely because they learned to understand and respect the different cultures and environments that shaped them.

I’ve seen many couples like that through my work, and I have many friends in those kinds of relationships as well.

But even between two people from the same country, differences in upbringing can sometimes create significant challenges.

That’s why, when you’re looking for a partner, I think it’s important to look beyond who someone is right now.

Try to understand:

What kind of environment did they grow up in?
What experiences shaped them?
What kind of life have they lived?

Because understanding the person behind the person you’re meeting can be just as important as falling in love with them.

Understand the other person.
Understand yourself.
And then, actually face the relationship.

Because when it comes to love,

you have to experience it firsthand.

A thought from LISA today.

See you next time.

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